Impostor Syndrome: What's Your Worth?
“Who am I to help people, I don’t know anything.”
“I can’t charge that much because I’m not really an expert and I’m still learning.”
Everyone has that inner voice that creeps in every now and then steals their sunshine. Experts call it Impostor Syndrome. This slips in when people don’t internalize their successes and hold on to fear of failure. Women suffer from impostor syndrome at a higher rate because: patriarchy. But what can you do about it?
Write out your thoughts & feelings. All of it. Write out the shame & criticism running through your mind. Release it all and let yourself feel all the big emotions.
Think of someone you love & adore. In your mind give this person a big welcoming hug. Now imagine they handed you your list from step 1 and told you that’s how they’ve been feeling about themselves. Counter it and lift them up with all the ways they are amazing. Now tell them you’re also feeling the same way and ask them to help identify your strengths and overall amazing-ness. Write it down. List all the ways you make the world a better place. For an extra pick me up send your person the list of things you love and admire about them.
Write down your failures & catastrophes. Now accept ownership for them. Where did you go wrong? What could you have done differently? Notice how you feel. Is it shame or embarrassment? Are you angry with yourself? All of the above? Let it wash over you. Feel it. Invite it in for tea and see what it has to teach you. Now re-frame this list. This is actually your journey to wisdom. Once you accept ownership of your stumbles then you have another feather in your cap of lessons that make you a master in your field. No one learns to walk without falling flat on their face more than a few times.
Create a timeline. Write down where you were 10 years ago, then 5 years ago, 2 years ago, and now. If you don’t like what you see progress wise, use it as a fuel to get your fire burning again. If you’re feeling down that you aren’t where you wanted to be, then harness the power of the internet to learn about scaling your business or go back to the Clarity exercise in the library to hone your vision and jump start new ideas. You’ve come a long way whether its visible in financial successes or experiences & knowledge. Be proud of your life’s journey because it is yours and it has purpose.
Read your reviews. Keep a list of positive things people have said to you about your work whether in conversation or written reviews. If you’re just getting started on your business journey and don’t have any positive reviews, let me give you a few right now: you my dear are a child of God. You are loved. You have purpose and vision and a voice that deserves to be heard. You’re an inspiration to others and serve people you find on this life’s journey with passion and heart.